Are you now or have you ever been an introvert? Do you know any introverts?
The answer the first question is “possibly.” You may not be an advanced case, but you probably have some tendencies. The answer to the second question is “definitely,” because at least 1/3 of people are introverts.
If you’re unsure about your status, Susan Cain, author of Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking, has a 20 question quiz to clarify which end of the spectrum you gravitate toward. The more statements you agree with, the more introverted you are.
I scored 17 out of 20.
These are five of the statements that spoke to me:
-I prefer one-on-one conversations to group activities. [Groups make me tired]
-I enjoy solitude. [I’m good company, why wouldn’t I?]
-I often let calls go through to voice mail. [I hate my phone- more on that later]
-I feel drained after being out and about, even if I’ve enjoyed myself. [Especially if I’ve enjoyed myself]
-People tell me I’m a good listener. [Since I was a wee child]
For the record- introversion is not the same as shyness. They often pal around together, but shyness doesn’t get jealous if introversion goes to the bar with its other friends. I am not shy in the least, but I may seem like it when I feel like I have nothing to contribute to the conversation. I’m perfectly happy to listen to what is going on around me without jumping in.
I might go into greater depth about introverts in a later post, but if you are interested you really should read Susan Cain’s Book. It taught me why I’m compelled to do certain things and why I should never be ashamed of them.
Now that we’ve established if you are an introvert/the fact that you know some, lets talk survival tactics.
I work as a massage therapist, which means I see a lot of very tired, stressed out people. Many of those people have similar problems, and part of my job is to give people tools to help them once they are off my table and out the door.
The Introvert Among Extroverts is a common occurrence. Our society is stuck on the idea that extroversion is the only way to be. Introverts become very tired living a perpetually fish-out-of-water lifestyle, and most of those clients don’t realize that the fault isn’t with them.
So, without further ado: